There is a blindness that comes with chasing wealth instead of value. A blindness that makes a young man reject a woman with a humble background simply because she lacks financial comfort. A blindness that makes men fear educated women instead of seeing them as partners in destiny. A blindness that reduces relationships to financial transactions, as if the price of love is measured in urgent 2K requests and bank alerts. But true greatness is not built on transactions; it is built on vision.
The social media world and online expert counselors has told young men to seek “1st class ladies”—financially comfortable, well-connected, and already made. But history and scripture tell a different story. The greatest men did not rise because they surrounded themselves with already-made women. They rose because they married women who believed in their vision before the world saw it. Women who stood beside them, not because of present wealth, but because of future promise.
Bishop David Oyedepo was not a millionaire when he met Faith Oyedepo. He was a struggling young man, fired up with a vision but with no physical evidence of success. Yet, Faith Oyedepo saw the seed of greatness in him. She did not measure his worth by his bank account; she measured it by his calling. Today, the world sees the wealth of Living Faith Church, but few remember that Faith Oyedepo stood by a man who had nothing but a promise from God. Dr. Paul Enenche’s marriage story follows a similar path. When he met his wife, Dr. Becky Enenche, he was not the global figure he is today. He was a young medical doctor with a burning passion for ministry. Many young ladies might have laughed at him, seeing ministry as an uncertain path. But Dr. Becky saw his conviction, and she followed him into destiny. Today, Dunamis International Gospel Centre is a global force, and she stands as a pillar beside him. Even Prophet TB Joshua, whose life was marked by extraordinary miracles, had a wife who believed in him when he was unknown. Bishop David Abioye’s wife stood by him when there was no glamour, no private jets, no global influence—only a young man with a vision.
What do all these women have in common? They were not attracted by instant financial success; they were attracted by purpose not hookups before marriage. They married men who had nothing but a vision, and they helped build that vision into reality. The world may call this foolishness, but destiny calls it wisdom. Men rise not because they surround themselves with already-made women, but because they align with women who recognize what is yet to be made.
A man does not become great by avoiding urgent 2K girls; he becomes great by chasing a vision greater than himself. The difference between a man begging on the streets of social media and a man building empires is not in the kind of women they date—it is in the kind of vision they carry. A woman does not turn a man into a king; she only amplifies what is already inside him. If there is no throne in his spirit, there will be no kingdom in his hands. Yes, a man should avoid relationships that drain his potential. A man who spends all his energy on women who only demand urgent 2K will struggle to rise. But the solution is not to chase only financially established women—it is to chase purpose. A man who is building something meaningful will naturally attract a woman who believes in meaningful things.
The world has created a flawed idea of “1st class ladies,” defining them only by financial status, connections, and degrees. But what truly makes a woman 1st class? Is it her bank account, or her ability to see the greatness in a man before the world sees it? The truth is, many “1st class ladies” are not defined by their wealth but by their mindset. A woman from a humble background can be 1st class in wisdom, faith, and virtue. A woman with no family connections can be 1st class in character and vision. To define a “1st class lady” only by financial status is to ignore the true qualities that make a woman great. Even the Bible says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). The world may chase after wealthy women, but wise men seek women of virtue.
Many young men today are being told that they must upgrade themselves to attract high-value women. And this is true—but the upgrade should not just be about financial success. It should be about wisdom, integrity, and purpose. A man who is only upgrading his bank account without upgrading his mind will still lose the right woman. Money can attract people, but only vision can keep them. The greatest men in history were not just rich—they were purposeful. They had something greater than money: they had a calling. If you must upgrade, upgrade in wisdom. If you must improve, improve in purpose. A woman who truly understands value will not reject a man because he is still building—she will reject a man who has no direction.
There is hope for the intelligent, well-trained, and humble woman who is overlooked because she does not come from wealth. Just as there is hope for the young man who is still building, there is hope for the young woman who is still rising. The world may tell her that men are only looking for “1st class” women with financial security. But history proves otherwise. The greatest men married women who were not defined by wealth but by wisdom. The Holy Bible is full of such stories. Ruth was a widow with nothing, yet she married Boaz. Esther was an orphan before she became a queen. Even the Proverbs 31 woman was praised, not because of her financial status, but because of her virtue. The world may overlook women from humble backgrounds, but men of vision recognize their worth. A woman is not defined by where she comes from but by what she carries inside her.
A man who surrounds himself with women who only demand urgent 2K will struggle. But a man who chooses a wife based only on her financial status is also missing the point. Great men marry women who believe in their vision. They marry women who see beyond present circumstances and into the future. They marry women who are rich in wisdom, faith, and purpose. The message to young men is simple: Upgrade your mind before you upgrade your wallet. Chase purpose before you chase money. And when choosing a wife, look for a woman who sees your destiny, not just your paycheck. The message to young women is clear: You do not have to be born into wealth to be worthy of a great man. Be excellent, be wise, and be virtuous. The right man will see your value.
After all, history has proven that behind every great man is not just a “1st class lady”—but a woman of faith, vision, and wisdom. Be guided on who you listen to on social media because we are in the age of deception.
– Inah Boniface Ocholi writes from Ayah – Igalamela/Odolu LGA, Kogi state.
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